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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got SIL2 $100 gift card to Nordstrom.  There was no scrimping.  I got SIL1 the Natasha Denona Lila palette which was around $120ish.  That is not a big difference.  SIL2 seems to harp on the thought and time we put into the party/gifts.  I just think it was so uncalled for.  It was pointed out she complained in private and I can see now I should have responded better.  [/quote]

There is a big difference between a gift card and a personalized gift. I can see why she felt slighted. Even if the dollar amount was more or less the same, you put thought and effort into your gift for your other SIL. You took the time to know her and her interests well enough to choose a present that was both tailored to those interests and something that she would not get for herself. Buying a gift card does not show that kind of consideration.

Maybe it is understandable because you do not know your other SIL well enough to choose a similarly personal and thoughtful gift, but your reaction to her (again) private criticism definitely portrays you as someone who doesn't really care about her. That's why she is "harping" on the thought and time of the party - it's not about the stuff or the event. It's about her feeling that you don't care about her as much as this other woman.

If you want to repair this relationship, you need to apologize. Deeply and sincerely.[/quote]

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