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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you might benefit from the Kazdin method.  I read a "lite" version of it when my DS2 was born and it helped.

BTW, I follow Janet Lansbury and she's not against consequences.  You just have to be calm about it and it's best of they're logical.

Also one more thing: things go so much more smoothly in the house when DS1 is out of the house for at least half day at presschool or camp or whatever.[/quote]

Thanks. Yes, he did FINE the weeks he was in VBS. And during school he’s better. But now, day after day until school starts...

What consequences do you do?[/quote]

I'm 13:58 again.

I use time out as a consequence.  Mainly "You don't get to spend time with me and your brother if you are hitting/kicking etc, so you need to go to your room".  I also find that when my older one is starting to get "punchy" and I can tell she's going to get rough, I find focusing on just her for a minute helps.  Saying "you seem like you are having a hard time" and just pulling her into my lap for a minute helps.  I try to do that BEFORE getting upset and angry.  She wants to be focused on.  The hard part is the 1 year old sees that and then is ON ME LIKE GLUE to try to get the attention as well.  It's a tough balance.

Get them out of the house as much as possible.  Have a little structure.  Our hardest times are when we've spent too long at home with "unstructured" play time.  So we need to move locations at a minimum.  The park, a walk, even just going to play in the basement helps immensely when they start at each other.[/quote]

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