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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No way should you say yes.  This is a GUYS' trip not a 3rd wheel trip.  She sounds like a controlling, insecure nutcase - she's "not comfortable" with her brand new boyfriend fulfilling a commitment he made before he even knew her?  I would respond with something like, "Dude, are you f*%*^ crazy?  I'm sure she is a lovely woman and I look forward to spending time with the two of you at some point, but there is no way I'm going on this trip as a 3rd wheel."  Don't feel guilty - just help him see the absolute absurdity of his ask.  If she is this controlling after only 3 dates, God help this guy if he marries her.  Your friendship will be toast.

And I can't believe people above are telling you that you should let her come.[/quote]

I agree with this.  I would even say it with the tone this poster is suggesting.  I would add, however, not only "there's not way I'm going on this trip as a 3rd wheel, AND WITH SOMEONE I DON"T KNOW"

Because arguably, if you didn't add that last part, your friend would argue "no way.  there's no way you'd be the 3rd wheel.  I know you better than I know her.  I'd make sure of that"  but then it would absolutely happen even if your friend didn't intend for it to happen.

Seriously, I'd take the emotion out of it and just say it straight out.  Dude, I'm sure she's great and I look forward to meeting and getting to know her when you guys get more serious, but there's just no way I can go on this trip with someone I don't know and be a 3rd wheel.[/quote]

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