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[quote=Anonymous]I'm going to defend OP here- he said his parents want a grandchild not that they have been vocally demanding one. It's pretty common for would-be grandparents to long for a grandchild, especially since they only have one child. 
That's another thing- being an only child can make one yearn for children. That is also pretty normal. His DW didn't say she doesn't want kids- she said she wants to wait. That is a concern because fertility (from what I understand) can drop off sharply by late thirties. My OBGYN told me at thirty-four that if I wanted kids, I should put it on my agenda sooner, rather than later.

None of this gives OP dominion over his wife's body and her choices, but it's pretty natural to feel anxious. No one is right here,but  if they want kids, it's a gamble to wait too long.

OP- there is no winning. You cannot pressure your DW into kids when her career is on the line- she will resent you. If she waits too long and you have difficulty conceiving or can't, you might resent her. You both definitely need to do some counseling over this and figure out your priorities. Also agree with the health screening. Maybe you can have it all- who knows. Keep in mind that if you have three kids, you might be 46 by the time the last one is born-that makes you an older dad, in your fifties when your youngest starts K. That should also be considered. Your DW will make the choice, it is her body, but counseling might help get the full picture out there. [/quote]

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