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[quote=Anonymous]I am a mid thirties. Adopted at birth, wonderful and amazingly supportive parents. Never felt I was lacking for any family relationships on the parent front, did however long for siblings.  Parents told me an almost unbelievable story at age 18 about my birth parents nd I moved on.  Eventually last Oct I decided to take the one of the DNA tests just out of genuine curiosity and knowing I was opening Pandora’s box.  Within the first week I knew who my (both deceased) birth parents were.  Learned I had 5 much older half siblings from birthfather, have varied relationships with all of them from day one. Some were eager to bring me into their family, some were not.  About two weeks after initial results a new very close sibling match came up with an ethnic name that didn’t match any of the main players.  I nervously messaged and found out I had a younger brother that was born just over 2 years after me. We talk nearly every day. Have met up quite a few times with our spouses and young children since then. I was raised an only child.  He was raised with people that he never really connected with. He felt like an outsider from Day 1. I will say though, if he has a sibling that he was raised with and was extremely close to I would want them in my life too.  I would consider them family, 100%.  He had a life before me and I want to be part of that. I applaud you OP for wanting to be part of it. So many people want to erase an adoptees past and forget anything about the nature that brought them into this world. Thank you for being so supportive. My mother is deceased, my dad is very supportive but he doesn’t believe in nature playing a role in my identity. He has met the younger brother and it was very strange for him I think. A sibling was the one thing my amazing parents were unable to give me.

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