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We also sat down together and made up a 50/50 schedule that is insane on paper.  We each see DD every day (one of us drops off the other picks up). We each had a major condition we wanted (he wanted drop off and I wanted her to sleep at my place), so we created a schedule that included those. We check in twice a year to see if it still works for the other, and adjust accordingly.  We'll move to a new schudule this fall when DD starts preschool, but we used the same process. I created a few draft schedules and sent them to him for feedback, and he chose one that worked best. We track it on a shared Google Calendar.

[b]One perk of divorcing when DD was so young, she doesn't know us as a couple[/b]. She fully understands that there's daddy house and mommy house.  She never saw us together and never saw us fighting. She knows she has two parents, who live apart, but love her and that we can all spend time together as a family without issues. [/quote]

[quote]OP here - I feel like giving you a round of applause. This is the epitome of making the best of a bad situation. How fortunate that you can both be responsible adults in an emotionally fraught situation. How does dating play into all of this? [/quote]

Twenty years after having done this, I will warn you it can still have an affect on the child, even if you get along. My daughter thinks no one can understand her particular situation. And there is something about never ever having known us in her world together that makes her see us as non collaborative, even though we are. Not saying it doesn't work, but I think this view is overly rosy. [/quote]

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