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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]As someone said in the thread on triples: Why don't you let her sleep in your helicopter?[/quote]

PP, you sound like a peach. Do you have any children with special needs or chronic illnesses? If you don't, walk a mile in one's shoes before you judge another parent for trying to help their child manage such conditions on their own.
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Asthma is an invisible illness and, if not taken seriously, people can die. It’s actually considerate for the DD to avoid a roommate: the other girl might have to restrict the use of air freshener sprays, cosmetic or hygiene products, etc. Or not have visitors whose clothing brings in secondhand smoke.[/quote]

Only OP, her DD, and doctor are in a position to know whether there's a real health reason for an accommodation or not.  I suppose for extremely severe asthma there could be - although you'd think in that case it would have occurred to them earlier than a few weeks before school starts.

Reads more to me like pre-college anxiety about having a roommate and looking for an excuse to get out of having one.  Having a roommate is hard, and requires learning to communicate and deal with differences and each others needs, etc. - if it's not perfumes and hygiene products it will be a late schedule and an early one, or having boys over or not, or not liking someone's food smells, etc.  All things that this child will need to learn to negotiate in life sooner or later to handle work and a spouse and everything else grownups deal with.  Now is the time to learn those skills and how to advocate for one's health and needs.

I'd want my kid to be learning all that stuff, and I'd hope I'd really resist the urge to "get them out of it" with a single unless the health concern was dire.  Which again, I can't know - but OP does and is hopefully reading.[/quote]

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