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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]As someone said in the thread on triples: Why don't you let her sleep in your helicopter?[/quote]

PP, you sound like a peach. Do you have any children with special needs or chronic illnesses? If you don't, walk a mile in one's shoes before you judge another parent for trying to help their child manage such conditions on their own.
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I'm not PP but I tend to agree with the sentiment.  Students who are old enough to leave home for college should be able to handle these type of requests on their own, even if it's outside of their comfort zone to ask about it.  I made my daughter in charge of her own advocacy last year for things like this - she had to set up doctor's appointments, figure out what forms she needed and have them filled out, researched and signed up for classes and then pushed to get into ones that were full etc.

Just because she has asthma doesn't mean she can't be the one leading the process.  It doesn't mean the parent can't help them at the outset by sitting with the student and looking up who would be the right person to speak with about this but the student will benefit from speaking for herself.  There is pride in figuring things out on your own and in dealing with adversity.  My parents didn't even pay for my college and I had to work several jobs and take out loans to make it happen - I survived and ended up stronger for it.[/quote]
+1000000 parent of a kid with Crohn’s disease. Very serious chronic illness. Anyway, I totally agree with this. Learning to advocate for oneself is one of the most important skills we can teach our children, ESPECIALLY if they have chronic illnesses/needs that will be present for the rest of their lives.[/quote]

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