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[quote=Anonymous]Don't try to decipher what she wants.  Just try to plan regular visits.

When you are scheduling the summer, talk to her before you've made final plans.  So in October (or whenever), when you are looking at summer camps say "Jane, we're considering putting the kids in Camp June 12-July 18.  Did you want to plan a visit before we pay for camp?

When she says "Hope you have a nice rest of the summer" just say "Well, we have 4 more weeks.  Do you want to schedule a visit during that time?"

Try to be accommodating of them wanting to visit the grandkids before you or they have plans that can't be changed.  I know it's work, but if you tried to include them in scheduling earlier, it might help her realize how much effort you are putting in to include them before plans are set in stone.  I know that my MIL is pretty flexible six months out, but less flexible 4-8 weeks out.  We normally don't plan much more than 4-8 weeks out, but if we are planning something, like summer camps, we try to talk to her before she books a lot of things that she needs to schedule around.  She usually is willing to skip events that she has planned if she can do so before she's paid for travel or events.[/quote]

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