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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Therapy should help you move forward, though I would never do it myself. I am from an abusive culture where beatings and public humiliation are common, and not necessarily from parents but from teachers or any adult who deemes it their business. I drink a lot to cope.[/quote]

Op here and I am also from a different culture, one that allows for more of an authoritarian style of parenting and physical punishment. And growing up, I actually took some comfort in that maybe this was the norm. But then in my adolescence, I started realizing that our parents may have been on the extreme end of the spectrum with how strict and abusive they were. So this was always kept as a shameful secret.[/quote]

I am also from a culture where that treatment of kids is "normal", along with alcohol abuse. I'd rate my parents' abuse level at a 4.5, yours I'd rate a 7+. Understanding the cultural aspect has helped me come terms with my childhood if for no other reason than understanding I'm not the only one. Hugs.[/quote]

The ‘culture’ excuse is a lame one. My parents were abusive - to 4 kids - and have said that that is how they were taught to raise kids. That’s no excuse- these were supposed to be functioning adults capable of reasoning and thinking through their own actions. They were ignorant abusive assholes and there was no excuse for their behavior - and yes I’ve grown up and told that directly to them. They’ve been straightened out to the point that they treat our kids (who didn’t have unsupervised contact until they were 12+) with the utmost of respect - physically and verbally. The ‘cultural norm’ is no more.

Alcohol abuse would mean no contact. That is also not an excuse. So awful, pp. [/quote]

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