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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't date someone that was "friends" with their ex. You are sabotaging future relationships.  I once dated a guy that broke up with his ex only to find out he was calling her behind my back. If it didn't work out with us he had Plan B...at least for sex.

I feel like part of being healthy is the ability to move on.  A ex is a ex for a reason. It didn't work out...thus not important at all.[/quote]

My SO is dear friends with his ex-wife, and it doesn't bother me or concern me in the least. In fact, I've had multiple meals and drinks with her, and I like her. She was one of the first to find out that SO and I were expecting our baby (she guessed it because I wasn't drinking and I got sick due to the smell of garlic), and she was THRILLED for us.

SO and his ex were great friends in law school, but that's all they were. They got married because they thought it was the "next step" after they finished school. They both admit it was a foolish move; they should've just stayed friends. They had zero time to work on their relationship when they were both working non-stop when they were fresh out of law school and trying to establish themselves in Manhattan. Their marriage fell apart because they didn't have time for each other AND while they loved each other, they weren't IN LOVE with each other.

I  have a tremendous amount of respect for both of them that they decided to separate (and divorce) amicably, and that they have maintained their friendship over the years. I would MUCH rather be with someone who has an amicable relationship with an ex than someone who holds a grudge or blames their ex for everything that went wrong in the relationship. [/quote]

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