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[quote=Anonymous]Good advice from many on this forum. Without a plan and organization being a SAHM is hard and without a plan and organization being a WOHM is hard. Have a realistic idea of what you are signing up for, what kind of a person you are, and what the end result you want to achieve. Know yourself. When I became a SAHM at my DH's request - I thought long and hard and I did a lot of introspection about who I was, what I could deal with and what I needed do succeed. I was pretty clear about four things. A) If my DH could not swing the living costs, mortgage, retirement and college without my paycheck, I was not quitting. B) We were not getting rid of the cleaning ladies and other support staff/services that we employed when I was WOHM C) We were not reducing any costs at home and I wanted at least 3% more for household funds every year and D) I was the final word in running the house, household budget and kids education. It has worked out very well because I was not staying back home to do the work a cleaning lady or a nanny/babysitter could do. I was there to parent my children and make sure that they benefited by spending time with a mother who has several college degrees. OP, you are educated. Surely you can find a way to create an enriching, healthy and fun day for your child? If you need some help to do the menial work, go ahead and outsource. If you need your child to get some socialization with other kids, make it happen. And if this gig is making you sad, have a plan to rejoin the workforce and still meet your kids needs. WOHMs and SAHMs make it happen every day. And yes, raising a child in their early years (I would put that from birth to elementary school), is very taxing in terms of labor and time. [/quote]
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