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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what exactly does she do/say? Give a couple of scenarios. It’s easier to offer some possible retorts if we know what her bullying behavior looks like. What does “snarkiness” sound like?[/quote]

Example:  "I'm here to see her (not name but "her") not you!" unsolicited, when baby was first born. Basically, any rude example is not beyond MIL, as she has a problem with a few things about me. I don't say much to her, for obvious reasons. I don't want to get caught up in specific examples, however - suffice to say she likes to insert the zingers, unsolicited,  when DH is is not present, no one is present, whenever possible.  OP here.[/quote]

DP  I first want to say that I do understand your frustration as my DH has an Aunt who is very blunt with you but, can't take the same treatment back.  It is a different situation in that we don't have to see her very often and we all talk about how mean she can be.

Just to present another scenario though:  Sometimes when we get on a bad cycle with someone everything they say is taken the wrong way.  For example, tone really does matter and if your above situation was told in a light hearted way you would be able to laugh.  Of course she is there to meet the baby!  The baby is a new member of the family where is she already knows you.  Granted if you already have a poor relationship it may come off as rude and who knows it might very well be.  But, I could see my mom or mil saying this and but because we have a good relationship I would laugh and hand them the baby.

If she is really as awful as you say I think the best way to handle is silence.  Most people can't handle it and it will get the point across.  That and not being alone with her if possible.

Good luck!

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