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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be pretty pissed if my DH reacted to spilled water the way you did. You should both take a parenting class. [/quote]

Really? You think asking a child why they aren’t doing anything to clean up a mess they made us out of line?  You and OP’s DH both sound like great parents. [/quote]

DO here.  The question is did the kid freeze because mom always flips out so they were scared?  If my kid didn’t do anything after spilling a drink I would have told him what to do and jumped in to help.  If this ranks up their as a big deal for you where you think snapping at your kid appropriate then you have some issues that need to be worked on.[/quote]

OP again. My kid didn’t freeze in terror. He was watching TV and was distracted. I did jump in to clean it up, and he just stood there doing nothing. Again, I agree that I shouldn’t have snapped, but I feel like the context is helpful to explain my reaction. [/quote]

Move the books, turn off the tv and say, let’s clean this up.  If being distracted and making a mess is a problem with food/drink agree with DH on how to handle it for the future and let your child know the rules. Should your child be allowed to watch tv and eat?  Is it a rule the table needs to be cleared of books etc if he wants to watch tv and eat dinner?  Is it that he loses the privilege if he makes a mess - so he can use a water bottle if he is worried about knocking something over or realizes he has to pause and be quick to cleanup the mess otherwise bye bye tv with food privilege.  Always talking to the kids about how can we problem solve.

Oh and kids are zombies wth the tv.  I’ve used the FIOS app to turn off the tv if I ask more than once for the tv to go off and they haven’t turned this off.  I realized I was getting way more frustrated than them asking for the 3rd time and 4th time. [/quote]

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