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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what exactly does she do/say? Give a couple of scenarios. It’s easier to offer some possible retorts if we know what her bullying behavior looks like. What does “snarkiness” sound like?[/quote]

Example:  "I'm here to see her (not name but "her") not you!" unsolicited, when baby was first born. Basically, any rude example is not beyond MIL, as she has a problem with a few things about me. I don't say much to her, for obvious reasons. I don't want to get caught up in specific examples, however - suffice to say she likes to insert the zingers, unsolicited,  when DH is is not present, no one is present, whenever possible.  OP here.[/quote]

You are the gatekeeper to your child.  DH needs to be on board with that fact.[/quote]

What if DH isn't around?  The issue is not the child, BTW  it is how MIL talks to me.  Which is why I am looking for snarky responses to a snarky woman.  I think I am trying to explain to much here (thus getting side railed), it is a rather straightforward question.  OP here.  [/quote]

Best thing you can do is call her out on her behavior.  These types of MILs are from an older generation and abhor confrontation. When she says something mean, simple respond with, “oh wow.  That’s so mean.  You hurt my feelings.”   Keep doing it.  “Wow that’s not very nice.  Why would you say that?”  Repeat.  She’ll evenially stop.  She won’t stop if you stoop to her level and say mean things back. [/quote]

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