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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one marries down. No one.  If you think you married beneath you, be honest with yourself about your other options at the time.  Chances are, the man you married was the best out of your options at the time, because men you think you ought to have married didn't find you attractive (so they weren't really viable options).

Your marriage market value includes your education/SES but not exclusively, and [b]if you didn't find your education/SES match, that means your other factors reduced your value in the marriage market.[/b] [/quote]

Thank you, voice of reason.

This gets back to all these threads where women think men should evaluate them based on how they evaluate other women.[/quote]

This is so not true! I don’t know many people that calculate and put everything on a scale. I had LOTS of options as a 28 year old very attractive, smart, from an upper middle class family, pursuing my PhD. I was dating several guys at the same time. All weresmart and accomplished, some had a richer families than others. I ended up marrying the one that was older (11 years older than me), not best loOk’ing if th bunch because he was the most exciting one and the most passionate one. I was so bored with the handsome and rich kids... I had my pick and I would never say I married down. Maybe some of he other guys were better looking, younger, and had more family wealth, but they had never been on a motorcycle, never held a gun, never jumped from an airplane, and the list goes on. I married the BEST of the group I am sure of this.[/quote]

Great, so you didn't marry down.  You married someone smart and accomplished, even if they weren't the absolute richest.

What, again, is your point that contradicts the quoted?[/quote]

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