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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Option 4: open marriage. Ethical non-monogamy seems to be all the rage among the millennials. We all get our strange and then come home to our partners.[/quote]

So many  people consider this out of desperation.  Is it increasingly popular? Maybe.  But it often does not work and creates more problems than it solves.

If you're someone who truly cannot be satisfied by monogamy and your partner feels the same way, great, maybe open marriage is for you.  But many people in sexless (or low sex) marriages don't want an open marriage, what they really want is a partner who desires them and wants to have sex with them.  An open marriage is a release valve of sorts (in theory) but it doesn't truly solve the underlying problem.  And then on top of it you have the complications of jealousy, having more than one relationship to maintain, etc.  It rarely works out as hoped or expected.  Lots of unintended consequences.  One of them is that if the sex is good you hate your own marriage and life worse than before.

Often the "open marriage" is really the last phase of bargaining someone does to try to stay in a bad marriage.  Then they leave and in hindsight realize they should have just left earlier, not prolonged the situation with desperate measures.[/quote]

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