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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I guess he just wants to be able to leave easily if he gets sick of me or things go south[/b]. His divorces were ugly and extremely costly. I don't need his money, I have my own and we would both sign a prenup if it were to ever happen.[/quote]

Does he say that he loves you? Is the relationship monogamous?  Do the two of you communicate well? If he was unhappy about something with the two of of you or concerned would he talk it out and discuss it with you or figure hey we are only dating I can bail and set up my match profile tomorrow?  I would hope if he is a decent human who is thoughtful and considerate of others with decent communication skills he would not just bail without a conversation.  If he is the type that would treat someone he loves that way (bail out of nowhere), you wouldn’t want to be married to him and I doubt marriage would change that behavior.

So it seems the focus really isn’t about marriage, it’s how he communicates and if he would put any effort into working things out if you had a disagreement.  Think about a long term close friend.  You aren’t obligated to stay friends if it’s not working out, there is nothing legal making it hard to walk away, you can also make new friends any time.  However, most people will put in effort to trying to work thru issues before walking away from best friend of x years short of it being something that they can’t forgive/crosses a big line.  If he can’t feel that/do that with you, then you are wasting your time.[/quote]

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