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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our child support agreement was written in such a way that he didn't have to pay me until after I it equalled  $20k because I got the house, and didn't have the $20k he was demanding. He quit his well paying job just as he hit that threshold and now is skipping the country.

I just got word that my mother is dying and I have to figure out a way to get halfway across the country to her before she does. I don't have the time or energy to deal with this in the manner I should. But thank you all.[/quote]

First, I'm sorry about your mother, OP. Truly stressful days for you.

Re: The ex: Your post above is confusing. So he owes you $20K or you owe him? (post mentions he doesn't pay you until a certain point but the post says "the $20K HE was demanding"....) I think the typing got garbled. Either way it's clear he had a job that paid well and quit--was it sudden? That makes me think he possibly has money squirreled away somewhere you don't know about, and he has planned to use it to live overseas or just disappear within the US. The fact he told you he's leaving may be his attempt to prevent you from looking for him for a while--long enough that he can vanish before you go after him (not that you actually would try to locate him, it's just that he may be thinking you would). I have a friend whose father just vanished after a similar, vague announcement and who turned out to have been hiding money for years so his ex-wife and children couldn't get any of it. Years of child support that was greatly less than he should have paid.

Definitely get a lawyer ASAP and find out about custody now. If you travel to your mother but don't take your children, with whom would they stay? I know you've said he doesn't seem interested in them or in taking them but of you were away, wouldn't he have the legal right to pick them up from anyone who isn't you?

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