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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Before a baby is born, the woman's body uses an egg and a sperm from a man's body to make the baby. My body and my eggs made both of you, but the sperm that made you came from a different person from the sperm that made Larlo. After the baby is born, the Daddy is the person who takes care of it. Daddy is your Daddy and Larlo's Daddy."

I'd leave out the relationship and the fights and the separation unless and until those questions come up. It may be less than she'd expect, as situations where the sperm and the egg and the social parentage are separate from each other become more common, and more talked-about. [/quote]

Really?  You would tell a child that.  Too complicated.  [/quote]

Sure. Not at 2 or 3, but at 4 or 5. My kid has lots of friends who are the result of sperm or egg donation, surrogates, adoption, whatever. Putting it that way sets up the realities of their existence as normal also. [/quote]

Thank goodness you didn't adopt.  At 4 and 5, kids don't need to know that information.  Elementary school, later, sure, but this is not appropriate at 4 and 5.  No wonder kids are so screwed up.[/quote]

I don’t know why you’d assume I didn’t, but OK.[/quote]

If you did, good luck to those kids.  Plus, you said my kid has lots of friends... you didn't say you did it.  I can tell you my child at age 4-5 knew the term adoption but didn't really understand what it truly meant till a few years later.  At 10, has yet to ask about birthfather, only birthmother like PP said.  I have nothing nice to say about the man so I don't say anything but in OP case, she had an affair and its very different than adoption.[/quote]

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