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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think he's resentful and he wants more fun in his life and feels you get it, even if you don't. Try changing your schedule to meet him halfway, worse case, it doesn't work. [/quote]

OP here.  I think you're exactly right about this.  Why does he think I get all this fun?  Because I stay up late every night?  I don't ever go out with my friends in the evenings (i.e. ladies night out), all the late nights/ travel nights/weekends he is working I am on Mommy Duty 24-7 with zero help.  I do all the grunt work of parenting--making meals, packing lunch, doing all laundry, driving all over the place for DC's activities, appointments, etc.  And I do all the grunt work of housework to keep the house running in an orderly fashion--grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc.  Yes, I do stay up really late to get in my own personal time (from about 9 - 1 am) but that is my choice and I sacrifice on sleep to get that time for myself.  DH is not willing to sacrifice sleep, working out, or his sport hobby.[/quote]

Ok at this point you're just being a martyr. People have made several suggestions and you've shot every one of them down. You have the money to outsource the meals, laundry and cleaning and you don't need to be driving all over the place for a 4 year old's activities! Outsource as much as you can to get your own free time in and meet your DH somewhere in the middle. You're sure as hell not going to convince him to spend less free time on himself by attempting to restrict it.[/quote]

OP here.  My free time isn't the issue though--I have enough free time for my liking per day, in the evenings when I stay up late.  The issue is that DH feels he does not have enough free time.  What would be the purpose of my outsourcing meals, laundry and cleaning when he doesn't do any of those things anyways?  Is the purpose of that so I spend all my evening time with DC and DH spends even less time with DC but gets more of his own free time?  My complaint is that DH doesn't spend enough time with DC and wants too much of his own free time given his career choices.  I genuinely don't see how my outsourcing these things will get DH to spend more time with DC.[/quote]

Good lord, lady. Maybe he's just telling you that so he doesn't have to hang out with you. You seem exhausting.[/quote]

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