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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a sign of her being impolitic, not autistic. Big, big difference.

13 is a hard age. In reality, it might be better for the kids to not have know full situation about the firing, although clearly they would logically surmise what happened. Then the gossiping would be more gossip than facts.

It sounds like, given her propensity to do this, you need to identify situations where it could happen and proactively tell her she should keep certain things to herself. I know you can't do every one, but some. So, you need to say things like, "As you know, you have a new coach now, one that we feel is better for your team. But, you still are very involved in Sport X, and may know others who are okay with his/her coaching style. It's important to keep your feelings to yourself."

[b]Of course, depending on the level of temper issues, you may have other responsibilities to protect future athletes under this coach's charge, but I'm assuming there are no concerns there (not physical or verbal abuse). [/b]

You may also want to consider what you tell and don't tell your daughter. I have one child I would share more with than the other (both same age). One is just more trustworthy. I hope that will change, but right now I have to deal with the way it is.[/quote]

I wonder what he was fired for then.

I’m shocked so many people are saying the kid is a gossip. What if a teacher had been fired from another school for not being able to control his temper, and your child were placed in his class. Your child’s friend was in his class at the old school, and heard about the new placement. Imagine your kid’s friend giving your kid a heads up about what happened, and then getting in trouble with her mom and being sent to a psychiatrist for testing because they gave your kid a heads up. As a parent, I’d appreciate the warning so I can keep a closer eye on the situation and know the teacher’s history. I’d be disgusted with the other parent for thinking being helpful and looking out for a friend means her kid has a psychological disorder or autism. I’d also feel sorry for for her kids that the one who tried to share info is going to be afraid to tell her mom anything, and that the sibling thinks that’s so inappropriate she has autism. Also that the mom is “gossiping” (since mom loves that word so much) about the younger sibling to the older one. How inappropriate and divisive is that, not only to compare but to try to get the older hold to find fault with the younger to the point mom is encouraging the older one to label the younger one autistic.

And so many women protecting a grown man who was fired for losing his temper with children. What’s up with that?[/quote]

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