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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bet your friends are pretty protective of you after watching you struggle. And they're probably more than a little concerned and skeptical that you're only 6 months in and are already all in and enjoying the "perks" of this guy's money... nothing is free and if you were my friend and jumped in headfirst after a bad divorce, I would worry. [/quote]

I have noticed that women when they date men with money seem so comfortable using their money very early on in dating.

To others it comes across unpleasantly.

Its one thing to use your husband's money. But to be financially dependent on a boyfriend of 6 months...seems weird and thirsty. [/quote]

OP here.  Nope.  I don't use his money.  I actually do not let him buy everything for me.   I can afford my own lifestyle but I can't afford his.  He does pay for me when he wants me to travel with him because he knows I can't afford that type of lifestyle.  I usually will slip the waitress my credit card and try to pick up a few meals.  He says I am the only woman who has ever done that.  His past girlfriends were "sponges" and I will not be one.

He is mid fifties and I am late 40's for what it is worth.  I would never be financially dependent on a man I am dating.  A man is not a plan!!!!![/quote]

I get you, OP, as a fellow mid-40s divorced woman.  Independence is crucially important for ppl like us.

In my case, I didn't meet a man with income but I did come into a lifestyle-changing inheritance recently, a few years after a shitty surprise divorce knocked me down a rung or two on the HHI strata.   Certain friends — and they are GOOD friends, like you say — seem uncomfortable with me no longer being the shell-shocked divorcee with cash flow concerns.  Like you, I absolutely DON'T flaunt it, and I don't even talk about money because it makes me uncomfortable.

But at the same time, I can buy my own Chop't salad when I get together with these few friends but they take some kind of pride in making a show of getting my $8 salad "because you need to save your money."  [/quote]

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