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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bet your friends are pretty protective of you after watching you struggle. And they're probably more than a little concerned and skeptical that you're only 6 months in and are already all in and enjoying the "perks" of this guy's money... nothing is free and if you were my friend and jumped in headfirst after a bad divorce, I would worry. [/quote]

I have noticed that women when they date men with money seem so comfortable using their money very early on in dating.

To others it comes across unpleasantly.

Its one thing to use your husband's money. But to be financially dependent on a boyfriend of 6 months...seems weird and thirsty. [/quote]

OP here.  Nope.  I don't use his money.  I actually do not let him buy everything for me.   I can afford my own lifestyle but I can't afford his.  He does pay for me when he wants me to travel with him because he knows I can't afford that type of lifestyle.  I usually will slip the waitress my credit card and try to pick up a few meals.  He says I am the only woman who has ever done that.  His past girlfriends were "sponges" and I will not be one.

He is mid fifties and I am late 40's for what it is worth.  I would never be financially dependent on a man I am dating.  A man is not a plan!!!!![/quote]

Perhaps you're not getting that across to your friends - you say you're not talking about it, but I'm sure they see you going on lavish vacations that they know you can't afford. Like I said, it's possible they're just skeptical and concerned based on your past history and don't want to see you taken advantage of. If they are real friends, in time when they meet him and see you two together, they will see it's the real thing. So I think time will tell, OP.

My best friend ended up jumping into a new relationship after a really bad breakup - one day she could barely get out of bed sobbing over her ex, and then boom, moving in with the new guy two months in, and married and pregnant in less than 6 months! She was disappointed that I couldn't bring myself to be more excited for her. I told her honestly that I would always support her but that I was worried about her and I wished she would've taken things a little bit more slowly and taken the time to get to know him. I'm glad she didn't accuse me of being jealous (I was single at the time) and understood where I was coming from. [/quote]

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