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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So two points.

[b]I think that a lot of this is perception. You don't hear about the dating ins and outs of your husband's male friends. So it seems "easy" for him because he hasn't gossiped with you about the day to day details of his romantic life.[/b]

Second, I think that men and women do their filtering at different stages. So women are more likely to decide someone isn't spouse material at say a month whereas men will decide later in the process. So it's not any easier for men, but the specific fact pattern of being in an intermediate length relationship with a partner who doesn't want to get married may happen to women more.[/quote]

This. Guys tend not to share dating woes -- certainly not with their married friends' wives but often not even with their guy friends. Or if they're the fratty type, they'll say casual things re sex but won't get into actual dating/marriage issues. They're not going to get into a discussion with their friends about -- I dated her for 4 months, I was starting to feel like she was the one and then she drops it on me that she'll never move to America with me; but I've been in NZ for 10 yrs, I want to come back in the next 2-3 yrs and my company is willing to transfer me back so I can't marry someone who'll never even consider the idea of leaving New Zealand. So while it may look like it was easy, you don't know how many women he went thru in NZ to find the one.

For all you know, he could have been dating steadily for the last 2 yrs, even had a few medium term gfs that it didn't work out with. That may be where the drunken -- I'll never find anyone -- talk comes from when he's around his buddies. Then he half heartedly goes on a few dates when he's back home in NZ and meets the one.[/quote]

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