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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have either or both of you gained weight? Let yourselves go? Do you do things outside of your relationship?

I would look at it differently than expecting him to make you feel special. Put more effort in the gym and your looks, assuming you don’t already. Get dressed up. Buy sexy lingerie. Get your nails and hair done. If you already do all of those things, go another route. Do physical activity together. Go hiking and enjoy nature together. [/quote]

OP here. I have gained about 20 lbs but am a size 8-10 so not fat, just not tiny. He has lost weight (was bulky from lifting when we met, quite skinny now). I admittedly don’t put a lot into my appearance, [b]but it’s gotten this way because even when I go all out (I.e. for a formal wedding) he doesn’t say anything or seem to notice[/b][u].[/quote]

Yes, this is frustrating, isn't it? Have the same situation. DH doesn't care about lingerie, sexy clothing. But...do you OP? How about you make an effort for you to feel sexy?

That said, I think you need to talk about this with your DH ... not that you don't feel special (that might make him defensive), but that you feel you are in a rut, and while he is your best friend, you feel like you've been friend zoned. And have SPECIFICS that you want from him.

1) I want weekly date nights -- But OP, if he isn't a planner, you have to plan them and not get pissy about it. Because he's not going to do it.
2) I want you to text me sexy things once in a while (once a week?)
3) I want sex weekly. (Schedule it if you have to!)

What actually will make you feel special, OP?[/quote]

Yes, this is what I was trying to get to when asking OP about weight. It’s about how you feel and you can’t expect DH to know what makes you feel special. I agree with PP about planning. Sometimes you just have to take charge. [/quote]

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