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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it is hurtful when people accept invites but don't reciprocate.  However, from the timing of the party, it sounds like your son's is towards the end of the year?  If so, it's possible that others have thrown smaller parties based on who their child is closest to, not realizing that your son is being excluded.

It really sucks, but it may not be intentional.  I will say that when boys are young, they gravitate towards the loud, energetic, slightly obnoxious types.  The quiet, sweet kids often get forgotten.  It's up to the moms to be inclusive, but I find that a lot of moms are all about what's convenient for them, not how what they do might impact other children.

We have always done whole-class parties until the last year, when we hit a limit with laser tag.  We were only allowed a max of 27, and if we included the whole class, some of the kids that my son is closest to but who are not in his class would have been excluded.  So we went with all the boys in his class, and he was able to invite all his closest friends (another 14 kids !).  We are fairly social and DS has friends from church, soccer, the neighborhood, etc. He likes to bring everyone from all these settings together on his birthday, so it gets a little challenging when it involves a venue that has hard limits, but we try to be as inclusive as possible -- and certainly with regard to his class.

Please do try to buffer your son as much as possible.  Don't let him see that you're upset, because it will amplify his sense of hurt.

If you're brave enough, I would make it a point to say hello the the moms hosting the parties where your son was not invited.  You don't need to say anything, except a very friendly hello.  They'll get the point, and perhaps take a moment or two to think next time.

So sorry this is happening to your son.

#moms4inclusion

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God, you sound insufferable.  Especially since you're excluding the girls from your son's next party, and since you presuppose every has the resources to throw a massive party at an expensive venue.  #getoveryourself[/quote]

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