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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Huh, really? I have no trouble finding guys to go on casual dates and have sex with but that isn't what I want. I want a monogamous relationship. Instead I meet good looking interesting guys who want to take me out to nice places and then have sex within several dates but never commit. Sounds like that is what you want. I am 41 and never been married and don't have kids. Have been primarily dating divorced dads the past year and that is what I get. I'm ok looking but nothing spectacular. [/quote]

I'm late 30s, and this has been my experience as well down here in Atlanta. This is the worst place for dating. Is DC any better?[/quote]

DC. Honestly, I was in a long term relationship for a while and just re entered the dating scene a couple years ago. Before I did not have this experience.[b] I really think dating apps are making it easier for guys to be noncommittal and just sleep around.[/b] Women need to wise up and date men for longer and Ashli r exclusivity/commitment before sleeping with men. I used to sleep with men pretty early on in dating and it worked out, but now I think it's riskier so I hold out. [/quote]

I have to agree with this.  I tried online dating but it's not for me.  I'm still very old fashioned about sex.  Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it but I don't need it like I need water, food, and shelter.  I want it more like I want a chocolate donut.  I sort of feel about sex like a donut as well.  It seems like a good idea in the moment, but after, it often just leaves me feeling ashamed.  I want a donut that I know is going to be worth all of the extra calories, one that at the end of the day I think that was a great donut and worth it.  Sadly, while you can take a bite of a donut and spit it out if it's stale or not to your liking, it's a bit harder to do that with another person in the middle of sex.  Can you imagine being intimate with someone and then just as things are really heating up saying....no, this isn't for me.....

I need to be very sure about the person I'm going to have sex with before I do it.  Online dating doesn't really bring those guys out.  It's more for people that just seem to want someone/anyone in the moment.  I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror in the morning and not feel ashamed or embarrassed about my behavior.  Of course, no one but me knows if I did this or not.  But it's not a feeling about myself that I'm comfortable with.  So I don't participate in online dating and I hold out hope that someday I'll meet someone that shares the same values that I do.[/quote]

Lots of online dating is really just online mating. As long as plenty of women are giving it away on first or second dates men will take all they can get. [/quote]

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