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[quote=Anonymous]Your mother is going to [i]think [/i]that you are being cruel. That is not the case.

You didn't cause your mother to be this way, you can't cure it, and you can't control it. Continuing to have contact with your mom won't make her any happier. It will drag you down and sacrifice your wellbeing. So, faced with a choice over whether to make your mother temporarily feel better (remember you can't permanently fix anything for her) and permanently addressing your own needs, which makes the most sense?

As for the above commenter's reference to karma, here's something else to think on. Even Buddhist scholars would not require you to stay in contact with your mother. Enabling a abusive person to continue to behaving in the same way is not a kindness to her or yourself. Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche called this type of enabling "idiot compassion." I'm not a religious person, but I find that relgious texts can be useful philosophical tools when making tough decisions. There has been some wisdom through the ages, after all. Well, not even the Bible requires that you support someone like your mother: [url]https://www.openbible.info/topics/enabling[/url]. [/quote]

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