Reply to Unreliable in-laws vent

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Unreliable in-laws vent"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]15:25. This is OP. Thanks, that's a great observation that I hadn't considered. My parents travel a lot and ILs don't, so TBH the idea that they would come to watch our kids didn't really occur to me as a realistic possibility. I honestly thought that MIL would just get a kick out of hearing that her grand-daughter was asking about her. But it probably did set up a competitive feeling which might have caused her to offer to do something she really didn't want to do. It actually fits with her subtly competitive behavior in other areas, so it makes sense. It's just a really foreign reaction to me so not something I would immediately think about in a situation like this.

The irony here is that we've been going on a vacation with ILs for years. One that DH and I wouldn't choose on our own and is a pretty big inconvenience for us logistically...but we do it to spend time with them because it's what they prefer. They've rejected any and every suggestion to make it slightly easier for us. And my parents are somewhat jealous that we do that with ILs!

TBH, a big part of this, I'm seeing is actually less about ILs than it is about DH and I. DH has always bent over backward to get any time with his family, and then when they don't reciprocate even a little blame himself for not doing enough. Meanwhile, he sometimes complains about the discrepancy between how often we see my family compared to his. After this incident, for the first time, he acknowledged that he feels bad that his parents don't try as hard as he does and that the reason we see my family more often is that my parents make a lot of effort to visit us and also make it easy for us to visit them.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics