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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not trying to be a hard-ass here, but I think if someone says this you should look somewhere else at least for dating. Be friends with them if you want, but generally people who say this (usually women) (A) are not particularly interested in you (B) have unreasonable expectations that people will want to have relationships on only their terms and (C) [b]still want you to give them courting/romantic attention while keeping the relationship platonic. [/b]

Treat it like any other potential friendship. If you enjoy socializing with the person platonically, do so.  New friends are great! But don't pursue a romantic relationship with this person.[/quote]

This is the main problem I see, from both men and women. They say they want to be friends, but men still want the woman to put out, and women still want the man to woo her and pay for dates.

If you were really just friends, the other person should have no problem with you, say, flirting with or giving your number to another person while you two are hanging out. [/quote]

OP here. This is exactly what I tell guys that want to be "friends." With my true male/female friendships, there is a certain level of understanding if I cancel at the last minute, or do not share the same interest in a certain restaurant--I am not going. They can find another friend to go with them. It's no big deal.

There is a greater level of compromise with a dating relationship that is not there with a friendship.[/quote]

If you commit and make plans you don't bail no matter who it is. It's called being responsible.

Canceling at the last minute unless it's an emergency says FLAKE![/quote]

Stop acting ridiculous. Your true friends understand if you need to reschedule something. It's called friendship. [/quote]

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