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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP!  We are so similar.  Met my husband at law school, he's now a partner, I'm not a trophy wife, and am an unexpected SAHM of a preschooler (I worked the first few years of his life, with no plan to not work, but when our beloved nanny left to go back to school, I took "some time off" and here I am 2 years later.)  My husband doesn't leave trash around (that sounds ridiculous, I'm sorry you have to deal with that) but he is mostly helpless and I run the house and all things child related for sure.

We have a cleaning person come once a month, and pay a lawn service to mow our lawn weekly.  I have a babysitter come once a week for a few hours while I go to therapy.  My son also attends part time preschool, which we of course pay tuition for, and that gives me a few extra hours a week to myself.  I had a gym membership, but found working out at home was easier so we bought a treadmill and have a little home gym in the basement.

We are not lavish spenders at all (I'm fine with our teenage babysitter who asks for 10$ an hour, and my son goes to an inexpensive co-op community preschool) but that is more just our personalities than feeling that I shouldn't spend the money.  When I need to outsource something I do it and don't feel guilty.

What kind of help are you contemplating?  My cleaning person doesn't do laundry, but my neighbor's cleaning person changes the sheets and does laundry on top of cleaning and it's a game changer for her.

If your health and mental health are suffering, and you are in the financial position to pay someone to help, by all means do it!

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