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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I would assume that married adults make family decisions about whether it is best for one parent to be home with the kids, and likewise they make joint decisions as to whether to move or make any other big decisions.  There are many pressures in the world, financial, those of being a hands-on parent, and many more.  Also, family decisions are made based on issues other than pressures as well. The parties’ happiness? Anticipated security?  All sorts of things.  I can’t imagine what my response would be  if I were a stay at home parent and my husband came home and said that he had the right to make final decisions about huge family issues, like where we live, because we had decided together that it would be best for one of us to be home with the kids.  That approach pretty much assumes that, and being home with kids, be working spouse is somehow accommodating the spouse providing the hands-on childcare.  That the at home spouse in a fact works for the dominant, prioritized spouse who works outside of the home.  To me, that’s just crazy.  FWIW, I am a WOHP mom with a time intensive job. [/quote]

+1000 on this. OP, your use of the quoted word “right” implied to me that as the sole WOTH parent, you think you deserve a 51% vote on family decisions. Also, money isn’t everything. Also, I suspect you may have other reasons and are using money as leverage.

— Another WOHP Mom [/quote]

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I had to respond to this post because I almost choked on my drink. If you have children, the decisions must be joint and agreed upon together. The parents whether it be the mom or dad is staying home because it's what's best for the family and is doing unpaid work. Money is def not everything and if your spouse is saying they get to make all the decisions because they work, that would not work for me.[/quote]

Another poster compelled to sign on to this. Marriage is a team, and you make decisions together as to what's in the best interests of the family regardless of who is or isn't earning however much money. For some it might be best for the family to move and take that more lucrative job. For others, foregoing the more lucrative job and staying put might be the better choice.[/quote]

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