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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless you're actually going to parent them about being a good teammate. When your kid is out there screwing around and derailing practices and games no matter what the coach does and you sit on the sidelines looking on disinterestedly, your kid is ruining for everyone else and all you're doing is confirming for him that it's okay to be a selfish, shitty teammate. Man up and parent or let them quit.[/quote]

How about you man up and tell your kid that THAT'S HOW THE WORLD IS.  Everything's not going to be perfectly catered to their liking.  Everyone's not going to be totally committed in collaborative efforts.
Your kid's gonna experience this in sports...in group projects at school...in the workplace...in family endeavors when it come to planning parties and reunions and funerals.  You go ahead and convince your kid that selfish, shitty teammates are an aberration that can be easily alleviated by simply telling mommy or daddy that so-and-so isn't doing their fair share and you're gonna see that later in life it's YOUR kid who's running around acting like a spoiled brat - just like the ones you're complaining about in these formative years. [/quote]

Wow, you're projecting a lot here. I don't say anything to my kid about it other than to sympathize after a game when he laments a stop he missed because he was pulling double-duty on defense when his co-defender was simply watching the ball go by instead of actually playing. Other than that I don't say a word, because he's learning the rest of what you said through experience.

I don't need the kids on the team to be good, I just want them to try so they're not affirmatively hurting their team by making them effectively play down a player. I don't care if your kid whiffs 99% of the time he tries to kick the ball, I'll call to him that it was a good try and then cheer like crazy when he eventually makes contact. But they should be trying. People like to talk big games about how they make their kids play a team sport so they learn teamwork, but the kid who's freeloading off everyone else's efforts without his parents correcting him is learning the wrong lessons about teamwork, especially in a rec league where the coaches are limited in their ability to bench players or otherwise impose consequences.[/quote]

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