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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex girlfriend had a fling over a week period. We were close to breaking up and had a bad relationship and we both were immature and bad communicators. 
I found out, we broke up, got back together. Dated another 5 years and then I cheated on her by having an affair with a married coworker.

I can tell you that she regretted her fling and years later was disgusted with herself.
I’m disgusted with myself as well and regret what I did. [quote]I know the woman chose to have an affair but I hurt that young family immensely.[/quote]

I hope I learn from my actions. You have not. Go seek help[/quote]

Did the guy confront you? I would have kicked her to the curb and then beaten you senseless. [/quote]

I wasn't the first person she cheated with apparently, so I think her husband wasn't as angry with me. They had a 3 year old at the time. I did so out of revenge to my girlfriend at the time. I found myself wanting to inflict pain on her. The woman was a serial cheater i think, so she just wanted to fee lust and desire. It all blew up in my face when i ended it. She told my ex who told her husband.
My ex, by that time, had taken therapy and really worked on herself. I hurt her a lot with my actions since we were in a pretty good place in our relationship and were actually talking marriage. We were more open and vulnerable...well she was. My affair lasted a few months. We tried moving on, but she was too hurt. I ended up breaking it off with her .

This was 3 years ago. I haven't dated anyone since. A couple of ONS but I am still working on myself. She hasn't dated anyone either. We spoke a month ago...I think I am going to make a move. [/quote]

Please, please, please, please, please..... leave her the F alone.  Have you not already done enough damage?  What you did was deeply abusive.  You need to leave her alone and let her move on with her life.  Don't stalk her.  Let her go.

It's great that you worked on yourself but that doesn't mean it's good for HER to take a second bite at an old apple.  If you truly care for her, let her go. [/quote]

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