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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope, the kids need to be your priority here.[/quote]

OP here. I asked my parents to divorce when I was 8 years old. They would have been better off divorced and I could sense it. It is not always better to stay for the kids. My parents are still married and I think it is such an incredible waste of both of their lives to to have been miserable this entire time (more than 30 years). My husband and I have a better relationship than my parents (we don't fight that much but that is because there is no passion or emotion) minus the intimacy part. [/quote]

Then how about you WORK on the intimacy part? It will not be easy; it's not supposed to be easy. But if you leave your marriage without going all in on that and giving it several dedicated years of committed work, then that's on you. There is a long of damage snd built-up resentment there; it will take time and hard work. But I think you owe it to your kids, not to mention yourself. I would advise counseling. 
You yourself have said multiple times that your marriage isn't so bad, you're excellent co-parents and roommates, and it's just the intimacy part. [/quote]

Several years of work is ridiculous.  They are not compatible. [/quote]

Maybe, but unless they seek therapy (alone or as a couple) they will probably repeat the same unfulfilling patterns in future relationships.  [/quote]

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