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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up learning and understanding that when you are the host, gifts are never an expectation- from birthdays, to housewarmings, to weddings. Invitations are not summonses, any more than they are invoices, and the point is that the guest is supposed to grace you with their presence and that is really the extent of their “responsibility”.

So no, it’s actually not rude to show up without a gift.

BUT, as a guest, I was also taught that you should reciprocate some of your host’s hard work and honor their celebration by bringing something for them. I always bring *something*, even for a dinner party, be it a bottle of wine (for the host, not to enjoy during the party), fresh cut flowers, etc.

So I’m weird, because my brain thinks of it both ways.

Now I know this is a birthday party question. The invitation really shouldn’t say anything about gifts in any case, but I also know it’s convention now to mention gifts. While it’s not rude to show up with no gift, it’s also not taking the hosts hard work and celebration into consideration. A small gift on one’s birthday is appropriate, party or not. [/quote]

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