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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I sympathize.  I also think people on DCUM are way too black and white about the doormat ("no is a complete sentence") stuff.  Of course that is true, but it is really hard, especially when someone asks you something face to face to just say "no" with zero follow up.  I would guess lots of people saying that on here would stutter through an explanation when taken off guard as well.
 
That said, I have started doing just that, awkwardness be damned, because it is true that certain people really push it once they get "yes" a few times.  I have a certain mom who I have helped out a few times in a pinch, but she is now no longer working and asks me in advance to drive her son home(to their live in nanny) because she made a car appointment during school hours.  It is the same situation as you, in that there is no compelling reason why I CAN'T take him, except that it isn't my responsibility to and I feel taken advantage of, since it's at least once a week.  This latest time, I just said "sorry, I can't" and withstood the awkwardness that followed.

And to the PP who asked about seats, as kids get older (I have a Pre-K 5 year old) you can get a 35$ booster for an extra kid.  They don't install like car seats, you just plop them on the seat.  We always have one on hand so we can do playdates after school.
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