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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 35.  We’ve been married for 10 years - met freshman year of college and have been together since then.  We recently purchased a SFH in Bethesda, and we have some savings that we’re rebuilding after the home purchase..  We both finally feel established in our careers after some struggles during the recession.[/quote]

^OP here - I’m still new to how to post.[/quote]

If you plan on having kids, starting now is prudent- especially if you have PCOS.  I have PCOS and it took 7 months to get the medication correct to ovulate and another 2 months before I was pregnant- then 9 months of pregnancy- so all told 18 months from when we started.   Different reasons, but it took about 18 months from starting trying before we got #2 too.

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Huge +1 to this. Some people are lucky and get pregnant right away even with pcos...but most are not. It takes awhile (and miscarriage rate is higher with pcos, so you may be factoring that time in too). Do you want more than one kid? You need to start trying very soon.

I too wonder if you definitely want kids. I would echo that most people aren't "ready"...we started trying because we knew we wanted kids, and knew that since I had PCOS it could take longer. We knew we'd much rather have them sooner than our 'ideal' than wait too long and be hating ourselves for it. That's wht gives me pause here - you're 35, you've been with your husband for 17 years, and you know you have pcos which makes this process harder. If you really did want kids, why aren't you worried more about possible infertility at this point??

We started trying when I was 32 and I didn't have a baby until I was 34. We started trying for #2 when he was 9 months, and it took another 8 months for me to get pregnant. Then I had a miscarrige and had to wait that out, then it took another few months to get pregnant again. And don't forget that once you get pregnant it's 9 whole months - even if you don't FEEL ready, you have a nice long built-in time to prepare for the idea.

Even if you get pregnant tomorrow (which is unlikely) you will be 36 or almost there when you have your first. It's time (IF you want kids). [/quote]

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