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[quote=Anonymous]My emotional affair started when my old HS prom date and I reconnected on FB.  I was going through old boxes and found funny pics of us from long ago and I sent them through messenger.  We laughed about it, caught up w/ life,but the conversation kept flowing.  Soon after we were sending messages every day.  It wasn't a big deal to me because he lives on the other side of the country.  When he was in town, we met up and sparks flew hard, but we didn't do anything.  The conversation continued after he went home, but I found myself getting sad and anxious when I didn't hear from him daily. He would write me non- stop,, he would ask to chat on the phone, I began thinking about him non stop.  For the first time in years I felt alive and wanted!  My heart would race when I received a message. But after a while, he began to get distracted and wouldn't reach out for days.  Then when he finally messaged, he didn't seem to think his disappearance was a big deal.  He would get upset w/ me for being sad. This cycle continued for another year.  He would dissapear for longer though.  Two to three agonizing weeks would pass and he'd act like no big deal.  Meanwhile I'd be going crazy in my head.  What had I done?  Did I say something wrong?  Luckily I was strong enough to not write him during these dissapearance acts.  He never understood how crazy upset he was making me.  Eventually, I was able to see how much emotional strain he was putting on me, and distracting me from actually living my real life.  I began researching "ghosting" and convinced myself that this man is a narcissist.  He would take all the attention he needed from me, then drop me for weeks. Telling myself that the problem was him, and that I'm not truly a crazy obsessed person really helped me to take the plunge and block him from contacting me.  I gave him no warning, I just needed to be free.

It's been almost a year since we've been in contact,but I still think about this man daily.  Though I still check out his social media pages, I've noticed it's starting to slow down.  I have enjoyed the weight off my heart, and feel so much less anxious.  However, I do miss talking to him.

I would never wish these anxiety ridden emotions on anyone.  The feeling of being wanted by someone new is hard to beat, but in the end, it is absolutely not worth the sadness, anxiety and obsessive emotions that seem to take over.

Good luck op.[/quote]

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