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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The whole idea behind a closed and sealed adoption is just part of the whole 'evil' regime of shaming women and protecting men. Sorry, but the parties won't have privacy. However, the mother and siblings owe her nothing except the information at hand. She should not expect a "family."[/quote]

BTW..I am in the same boat, however I was not expecting a family or contact. Several family (bio) were very open and friendly, but bio mother was not. She was an all around flawed person who had many issues. I was glad she did not raise me. I have also found bio father's family. He is long gone, but I won't contact the siblings. People need to realize now that there is no right to any privacy regarding this, despite what they were assured years ago. It was a dastardly system that scarred everyone, not the event of birth. And, it protected men who could dog around wherever and whenever. These DNA programs are not only  sourcing adopted family members, but outing men who no one ever guessed were having affairs. Your sister is not her mother. She found what she needed to know, and now she needs to move on. She was lucky. This woman, her mother, was shamed and she is continuing the shame herself. DNA will stop this nonsense.   #timesup[/quote]

OP here. Is there always shame? The birth mother and father were very, very young. I believe they were 15 and obviously incapable of raising a baby. The birth mother thought she was doing the right thing in giving a baby parents who were adults and could provide. We don't know anything about the bio father. He wasn't ever listed or mentioned and hasn't shown up on ancestry. I'd assume both just moved on after a major teenage mistake. [/quote]

NP here. Yes, but now that woman is what, 35? 40? Time to make peace with her past. [/quote]

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