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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with your sister.  Her bio family could have chosen not to do ancestry.com or checked the box that they not be contacted.  They put themselves out there.  Anyone who does that sort of test should understand by now that birth or other secrets could be revealed.[/quote]

From my sister's case, her found siblings had no idea their mother had had another child.  It was a family secret.  They might have just thought they'd find cousins not the secret love child of their mom.[/quote]

NP here but, tough. Such is life. They are adults, and this child's birth was presumably decades ago. It is not that child's fault they were born-- life happens.[/quote]

Life is very tough, thanks for being kind about it.  My sister is the product of a rape/incest (rape by family member).  The family is of course very Catholic so it has caused quite a stir with her bio family.  Imagine finding out that your mom had a child, that she was raped, and it was by her own stepfather who you grew up with and called him Pappi.

Yeah it isn't her fault she is alive, but she is a reminder of something awful to them all.  No one wants to talk to her.[/quote]

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