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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a mom of all boys, these posts really make me sick. Would you so easily cut your own family out of the mix? What part have you played in this toxic relationship, and can you truly just say it is all because of your IL’s actions?

I understand that there are *some* extreme cases that warrant such drastic measures, but I can’t believe that all of these type of posts are because of extreme cases. Every family has some kind of dysfunction, yes even your own parents aren’t perfect and have issues, but I can’t imagine cutting my MIL mostly out of my life (as a result, my kids and husband would see her much less). You put up with your parents and their issues, and you can extend some grace to your OL’d and their issues (I know that this is easier said than done).

Signed a mom of 3 boys (6, 9, 11) with a difficult MIL who spent the first ~10 years of our marriage thinking that no one was good enough for her precious baby boy (my husband is her only child).[/quote]

I agree completely.  You think you are punishing inlaws but it’s punishing your kids and your husband also.  Maybe your kids don’t care at the moment, but it has a toll.  Now an adult, I struggle to have a good relationship with my fathers side (very nice people) because of whatever beef they and my mother had.  It’s almost like strangers now, very awkward.  It’s unfortunate. [/quote]

Whatever.  I'm glad my father cut ties with most of his extended family.  They're a bunch of self-centered assholes.  I witnessed some of it when they were visitng my grandparents (father's parents). I am, however, quite close to the family of my father's best friend.  His kids are like siblings/cousins to me and my siblings.  Our fathers have been dead for years and most of us are living in seperate states but we still plan to get together when we're visiting home.  It's nice to have the option to 'chose' your family rather than feel compelled to maintain relationships that you get nothing (or worse) out of.[/quote]

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