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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there anyone else out there that has come to the realization that grandchildren are not happening?  Are you having a hard time dealing with it?  I had my children young and just assumed that I would be a young grandparent.  I'm 57, kids are 37 and 32 and neither want kids.  I realize it's their decision and no one should have kids if they don't want them, kids are tough.  I don't bug them to have children but I have to admit that it makes me really sad.  A huge thing that I thought would fill and give some purpose to the remainder of my life is not happening.  I love babies, children and teenagers and was looking forward to experiencing all of the fun stuff again without the day to day responsibilities.  I have lots of grand nieces and nephews but it isn't the same.  And yes, I have a life, career, a husband that I love etc. but so much that I was looking forward to as part of getting older is not happening.  And of course, this means no great grandchildren either.  [/quote]

YES! I am about your age with kids the same age....and no, grandkids won't happen. (A fair amount of granddogs, though! )

I've had to work on this because it changes everything about what I thought the future would look like.  I am also sad for them, our kids, because they will eventually be my age with no family. When my parents were extremely old, sick, and frightened, they had the support of their kids. We were there for them. I cannot imagine not being there at that time. Also, our life with kids was wonderful, and they will miss so many things that made life worthwhile along the way. Having kids made life great.

We are trying to re-navigate our future with out family events surrounded by a large extended group, cousins playing together, and the relationships we had hoped to have. Interestingly enough, we would have been great at this...there to help and babysit, financial help with camps, lessons, and college. We would have been THOSE grandparents. Now we take their dogs to the vet and buy them toys...Lol.

But...ultimately it is their choice, not ours, so we have just accepted without judgement. We said our piece years ago, and that will be all that is said. We can't live our lives through them.I am grateful that they, and we, are heathly thus far.

*Sigh-we don't play golf or tennis....whatever.  I love the neighborhood kids, I volunteer, etc., but yeah, life will be different than expected. Reset.[/quote]

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