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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a divide within female socialization, and it might be class-based. I'm going to way oversimplify here. I was raised to be polite, have good table manners, and to be kind - that sort of stuff. I know families where girls/women are raised that way and then some. Frequent compliments, endless positivity, no strong opinions expressed, even if they have nothing to do with hot-button topics.

This is something I've been digging into in conversation with my own mom. One example of many - we recently attended the baby shower of a longtime family friend. The mother of a girl I was friendly with in school, "Shelly", was there. She couldn't stop gushing about everything, including how my mom looked "amazing" and "no older than when the girls were in school." DCUM, my mom is a working-class woman in her sixties. She looks fine. She is not stylish or a beauty.

I've seen this divide play out a lot. I met a boyfriend's mother many years ago. I was polite, well-spoken, participated in conversation, careful with my manner. She didn't like me. I wasn't "nice".

I'm sure most of you will read this and think, well, you just aren't friendly, but I am. Some of you might relate. [/quote]

I hear what you're saying about the compliments as a substitute for personality archetype, but that's usually with perfect or near-perfect strangers or a generational issue.  I can see it happening occasionally, but every time you're around a group of women (OP's scenario) strikes me as unlikely or at least very unusual.  [/quote]

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