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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:

Why would I allow the child to have the privilege of a phone with her all the time (including at school) if she isn't showing that she can handle the basic requirements of her job (i.e. passing exams and putting forth the effort to re-take if she doens't pass the first time)?  She already has plenty of time on a home laptop.  I don't think she is "deprived" by losing phone privileges -- which for her is games/music on the bus and at school -- as well as when she is at home on her laptop.

Anxiety and depression???  Didn't WE all grow up without a personal entertainment device during the school day?  Did we all suffer from anxiety and depression as a result of boredom?[/quote]

OP. You are missing the point. And waaaay to angry.

No one is saying a C and a lie is ok. We are saying that it is bad practice to reward or punish outcomes. You will have more success with rewarding or punishing process.  Do you even know if she studied the first time? I know for me that this would matter a lot for determining what I did next.

My son would certainly face repercussions from refusing to retake a test but would also have been required to take steps to solve the content problem.  Steps to solve the content problem. Seriously.

Also, enough about the phone. She didn't refuse to retake a test because of a phone.  Yes, phones are a parenting challenge, but not the whole story.

You are headed for some very adversarial years if you can't figure out a less punitive and more reflective way to parent.  [/quote]

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