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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Instead of blaming your wife, grow up and be a better husband and father. It takes two to have a good marriage and she cannot do it all alone. You blame her for everything and take no responsibility.  [/quote]

I do not believe I am blaming my wife.  Rather, I am trying to do what my daughters therapists suggest is best for DD.[/quote]

You are saying, " I am trying to do what my daughters therapists suggest is best for DD.". This is not true.  The therapist did not say to you, "make your wife get into therapy.". The therapist said *to your wife* that *she* should get therapy.  This is your wife's job, not yours.  Stop bugging her about it.  Stop wasting your mental energy trying to strategize how to get her to do therapy - or anything else for that matter.

Your job is only to think about how *your* behavior affects your DD and to adjust it accordingly.

If you and your wife are fighting about therapy and that is affecting DD, the answer isn't to force your wife into therapy.  It is to find a way to deal with the consequences of her refusal to engage in therapy.  Maybe you detach emotionally.  Maybe you find ways to spend more father/DD time so DD can have good, non-conflictual support from you, maybe you divorce.

You are failing to take responsibility for your own stuff if you continually focus on what your wife is doing wrong.

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