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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you considered changing school? She sounds like a great kid who just needs to find her tribe of sweet, quirky kids. That is really hard to do in a small school. [/quote]

I disagree with this advice.  Nobody is being mean to her.  Nobody is picking on her.  If she's been with the same kids since kinder and is in 5th now, presumably she'll switch to middle school next year and be around a new crop of kids then.  She can certainly stick it out until next fall.  Changing schools should only be for very extreme situations.

OP, I suggest you tell her to keep working on herself and meanwhile make sure she's in after-school activities with other kids.  Religious school, dance, basketball, soccer, art, whatever.  [/quote]

Another kid asking her to move so they can sit next to their friend is definitely mean.[/quote]

No it's not.  [/quote]

Agreed that as portrayed by OP, the request doesn't sound "mean".  For it to be mean, there would be a lot more to the intent and tone.

Question, OP:  does your daughter receive any OT (occupational therapy) or counseling?  Those could be two good resources to help your daughter improve her social skills.

And while certainly you want to keep thinking about the other suggestions, too, like the lunch bunch but maybe you want to think about how you can help her develop her social skills.  Is she in scouts or does she do anything with your church or does she paly on any teams?  Do you do any volunteer activities where she could tag along and interact with other people?  I'm trying to brainstorm ideas so that she can practice skills and also increase her confidence in a way that will allow her to make overtures to these long-time classmates.  It can be really hard to break patterns of behavior (for the other kids as well as your daughter) so any ways that you can help her to see herself differently and present herself differently will help in that matter.

Good luck and hugs to your sweet daughter![/quote]

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