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[quote=Anonymous]That dread is your brain’s caution signal. It’s telling you that you can’t trust your MiL. And, if she’s the type to keep score for ten years, you really can’t trust her. I’ll never understand DCUM posters who tell OP’s to feel differently. We experience our feelings for reasons. They are our truths, and ignoring them gets us into trouble. Unless someone has a history of severe mental illness where they distort reality, it is so important to follow your gut.

It does suck that your husband is in the middle. But life is not fair. You trying to suck it up won’t make yourself feel better and it won’t soothe MiL either. Sometimes there are just uncomfortable and inconvenient situations that need to be dealt with for the sake of a happier, healthier future.

The only way to reduce your stress is to reduce contact with MiL. If you aren’t ready to cut off visits, cut off the flow of personal information.You’re “fine,” life is “the same old,” all delivered in a chipper tone, with a smile. Anything you say can and will be used against you.[/quote]

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