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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You [b]are[/b] being dramatic and cold.

I wouldn't allow alone time with your child, what I [i]would[/i] do is leave the child with your husband and YOU actually go and spend some time with your ailing mother. Because from your post it seems like you don't see it as your duty as her child to go see about her.[/quote]

I agree with the PP that you, OP, do need to step up and go see your mother.  It sounds as though you've done your best to isolate her and that can't be helping her mental health situation at all.

I agree that your daughter should not be alone with your mother until her situation stabilizes but I like the suggestions of another PP that your daughter can draw pictures or send cards or even make cookies to send to Grandma, who can't see her right now.  You can say Grandma is "sick" or "very tired" or whatever you need to.

But you do need to get over to see your Mom and get involved with her so that you are not contributing to her problems.  And your Dad could probably use the help since you have in effect isolated him, too.[/quote]

Puh-lease.  You're as bad as OP's dad. The problems OP's mother is experiencing are not of OP's making or contribution.  Actions have consequences and, mental illness or not, poor behavior pushes people away.  And, 'isolate' doesn't mean what you think it means.   :roll: [/quote]

I find it interesting that the very people on these boards who castigate grandparents - 'their' parents - for not doing everything 'grandparently' in relation to them: a) pick up my kid(s) after school 2-3x a week!, b) come over and nurse me through my PPD, c) you didn't give me a $50,000 downpayment!, and d) you spend more time with SIL than me!, are also the same people who don't want to expend the littlest energy to actually do something good for those parents themselves. Every example I gave was a thread I've seen here of whining adult children when their parent told them 'no' essentially, but the minute said parent might need you to help - oh, what's that? 'Not my responsibility'.[/quote]

Riiight.  Every single person complaining about a parent not being helpful enough also complains about having to do stuff for the parent.  I'm wondering how you've managed to identify and match every poster.  [/quote]

Considering the majority of these family threads are complaining about parent-adult child issues, yeah I'd say it is. The nickname one especially amuses me.[/quote]

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